What To Do if Your Ex Wants You Back

*This article mostly applies on girls.

You’ve moved on. Or at least I’m assuming you have. You’re finally happily independent, or you may have a different man to yourself now, and everything is going well.

Until your ex-boyfriend comes around. Yet again.

Isn’t it such an unfortunate coincidence that when you’ve finally let go, that’s when he comes begging you to return?

It isn’t.

See, I have this theory that when people see their ex move on, they feel vulnerable. They feel left behind. I know this; I’ve been there.

Well, what do you do now?

1. Ask yourself.

The Mighty Ex-boyfriend is all candy and sweets with his words, trying to convince you to come back. But would you let this affect you? Ask yourself, because at the end of the day, your feelings are what matters the most. If you still love him, or you want to give it one more try, no one’s stopping you, but..

2. Examine the past.

Think of the reasons it didn’t work out in the first place. Ask him his own point of view of how it happened. You can’t be bias on this one. For all you know, you were too caught up with breaking up that you never noticed it was all on you. Or on him.

3. Watch his words and actions.

What if he’s only saying all these things for a booty call? Don’t be fooled. Be sure to check up on his words. See if he’s sincere enough to write the sentence correctly. If he texts you this, “Oh bae sorry for evrything. I jus want u back,” uhm, I don’t think that’s called sincerity. If you want to be certain about it, why don’t you two meet up or talk on the phone instead?

4. If he cheated..

This is all on you. If you really believe he’s changed, go on and give him the chance he’s been rooting for. But be cautious. If he’s cheated more than once, what’s holding him from cheating one last time?

5. Be happy.

Relationships aren’t supposed to be stressful. They’re supposed to help you, to make you ecstatic. So watch out. There’s a reason he’s called an EX-boyfriend, hun.

– S.