What To Do if Your Ex Wants You Back

*This article mostly applies on girls.

You’ve moved on. Or at least I’m assuming you have. You’re finally happily independent, or you may have a different man to yourself now, and everything is going well.

Until your ex-boyfriend comes around. Yet again.

Isn’t it such an unfortunate coincidence that when you’ve finally let go, that’s when he comes begging you to return?

It isn’t.

See, I have this theory that when people see their ex move on, they feel vulnerable. They feel left behind. I know this; I’ve been there.

Well, what do you do now?

1. Ask yourself.

The Mighty Ex-boyfriend is all candy and sweets with his words, trying to convince you to come back. But would you let this affect you? Ask yourself, because at the end of the day, your feelings are what matters the most. If you still love him, or you want to give it one more try, no one’s stopping you, but..

2. Examine the past.

Think of the reasons it didn’t work out in the first place. Ask him his own point of view of how it happened. You can’t be bias on this one. For all you know, you were too caught up with breaking up that you never noticed it was all on you. Or on him.

3. Watch his words and actions.

What if he’s only saying all these things for a booty call? Don’t be fooled. Be sure to check up on his words. See if he’s sincere enough to write the sentence correctly. If he texts you this, “Oh bae sorry for evrything. I jus want u back,” uhm, I don’t think that’s called sincerity. If you want to be certain about it, why don’t you two meet up or talk on the phone instead?

4. If he cheated..

This is all on you. If you really believe he’s changed, go on and give him the chance he’s been rooting for. But be cautious. If he’s cheated more than once, what’s holding him from cheating one last time?

5. Be happy.

Relationships aren’t supposed to be stressful. They’re supposed to help you, to make you ecstatic. So watch out. There’s a reason he’s called an EX-boyfriend, hun.

– S.

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The Little Girl I Once Knew

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Dear Abby,

It wasn’t too long ago that I was a small child. A child that cared less about anything. A happy child. Like you.

But then came change.

I was starting to realize that everyone around me was judging me. My friends, my parents, every single one of them.

Insecurity is what changed me.

I did not grow up. No, growing up doesn’t change you. Your environment, your consciousness, that’s what changes you. I didn’t grow up, because I’m still childish, I still love the little things in life, I play children games sometimes, but those actions are kept on closed doors. When the door is open, I’m different. I’m not myself.

Everyone around you will judge you subconsciously. They will hurt you, but you have to be strong. You’ll give in now and then, but you’ll be able to go on. Your scars will heal, like mine are.

While I was little, I wanted so badly to be a teen. I thought it would be fun. I had a ridiculous idea that I would be free. That my parents would be less controlling.

I was wrong. It’s much worse.

I want to go back to the times that every little thing was funny. To the times where I can be weird, and it would be acceptable.

I want to be that happy little girl again. I want to be you again.

– S.